I love getting the updates from so many of you about how your challenge is going. If you haven’t shared your goals and progress, simply jump over to my Facebook page and share with us.
Some of you are completing this challenge with goals that are not new. You are getting back to what you use to do or what you have tried to do in the past. And because of that, moving into week two of the challenge, you may experience ACF (better know as – Anger, Cussin’ and Fussin’) – at yourself!
During ACF, you are prone to ask the following questions:
- Why haven’t I been able to do this before?
- Why has (staying on budget, communicating better, losing weight, dealing with this difficult person, loving myself more, studying, reading, taking personal time, saying “no”) been so elusive for me?
- How do I keep ending up in this exact same place – over and over again – when I know I want something different and better for me?
- If this is so important to me, how come I allow others to get me off track?
- Why do I even NEED a challenge for me to do the things I know I am supposed to do?
And the more questions like this you ask, the more ACF you experience. In addition to ACF, you may also be dealing with guilt, shame, discouragement, annoyance, powerlessness, frustration and doubt. If that’s you – take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. We have all been there.
Now, however, in this moment – in these 28 days – is the time to finally move forward, once and for all.
How do you do that? How do you stop ACF?
Here are 5 strategies to help you:
1. Harness the Power of the Clean Slate: This challenge is the line in the sand. The place where you have declared that you are moving forward and not looking back. Embrace this new day to finally get you where you want to be.
2. Understand Your Triggers: Something has stopped us in the past from making the change we are looking to make now. Take the time – a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month a year – to identify those triggers and evaluate your past responses to them. Then, decide how you will react differently if that trigger appears again.
3. Feel Your Emotions: There’s no need to hide and push down your feelings of anger or frustration. But there is a need to make a decision to move forward, even in the midst of ACF. When you begin to feel ACF, acknowledge it and ask yourself: “What positive action can I take in this moment to move me closer to my challenge goals?” And then do it!
4. Stay Accountable: No one achieves success on their own. Find someone who can support you in your commitment to your challenge goals. That you can report your progress and your feelings of ACF. Select someone who can lovingly remind you that you can do it and doesn’t put up with your excuses.
5. Plan Your Celebration: At the end of this challenge, how will you celebrate your accomplishment? Plan for it now so you have something to look forward to that acknowledges your commitment and hard work.
|RADICAL Success Coach Doreen Rainey is the founder of the RADICAL Success Institute and the annual Get RADICAL Women’s Conference.
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