Do you remember playing that game as a child? I can remember standing in a circle on the playground and sticking in my arms, legs, hips, hands and feet and then pulling them out – ending it all with shaking everything from head to toe.
Why am I talking about a children’s game this week? Because it came to my mind when I was talking with a client a couple of days ago. This person had set a goal around her finances and mapped out an action plan to accomplish it.
Over the course of the following weeks, she would move forward with her plan, and then suddenly want to stop – rationalizing that she wanted to go in a different direction. Then, a week or so later, she would be adamant about getting back on her original plan. However, a few days later, she would once again want to do away with her plan. That’s when the children’s game hit me.
She was , as some of us are doing, playing “hokey pokey” with her life.
One minute we’re gung ho about a goal, a plan, a direction we’re moving in, and that excitement gets us into action. We may write out a plan, take a few steps towards making it happen, and even invest some of our resources and energy in getting it done (that’s putting your left foot in).
Then, something happens.
- Fear steps in.
- Doubt raises its hand.
- You run into your first challenge.
- You talk to someone who isn’t as excited about it as you are.
- It’s much harder than you originally thought.
So you start to convince yourself that you don’t want it anymore, you can’t do it, it’s not worth it, or you’ll just do it later (that’s pulling your left foot out).
But then, wait. Something else happens and you decide you DO want that goal. Maybe you read about someone’s success story. Maybe someone gives you a word of encouragement. Or maybe you get frustrated (again) with the status quo, so you dust off your plan and get back in the game (that’s putting your left foot back in).
For some of us, this back and forth can go on for weeks, months, and at times, years.
We constantly deal with an internal battle: “I’m in, I’m out, I’m doing it, I’m not doing, I’m going, I’m not going, I’m working on it, I’m not working on it, I’m ready, I’m not ready” (that’s shaking it all about).
Not only does this game confuse your mind, waste your time and frustrate you – it also eats away at your core – your spirit and your soul.
If you are still playing children’s games in your adult world…if you’ve been circling around those same goals and aspirations for years, now is the time to not just put your foot in – but to put your entire being into it. Put it all in and go for it… cause that’s what life is all about.
|RADICAL Success Coach Doreen Rainey helps her clients define success for themselves and then get the guts to go after it. For information on her RADICAL Success Institute and other coaching programs to help you reach your professional and personal goals, visit her website.|